Commitment to a certain person and a certain partnership plays an important role in relationship development. You cannot just decide that you are now a part of a real union and your partner magically understands that. When it comes to commitment issues, the millennials are first in line for discussion as these young individuals obviously experience some troubles with being fully devoted to a relationship. Clearly enough, there are some good (or, in this case, bad) reasons for that. Let’s make a list of them.
- Media image. The motives and pictures we see in media nowadays have nothing to do with the family propaganda. Your individuality is your primary interest, your personal development and achievements are what should really bother you. Without developing a plain need to be a part of something, be it a family or a love relationship, we may only count on our natural instincts to make the notion of that. And it does not really work, as you probably can see. Likewise, we get quite strange messages from modern media. Reality shows and popular series teach us that love is fragile and elusive; that love is always embellished by betrayal, adultery, disloyalty, disappointment, and counting. Is it really possible that the generation taught by such images may become commitment-available? We highly doubt it.
The issue of choice. You know what spoils us the most when making a choice? Too many options, of course. With the arrival of online dating, it’s no longer a trouble to find a partner (well, at least to look for one) because there’s a lot of people out there likewise looking for love online.
But what if we told you that too many options are no good for you? When finding a decent girl, you may say to yourself, “I can actually do better than that, I can find the best Ukrainian girls or some other women; there’s plenty of fish in the ocean!” Doing so, you skip those who could actually fit you and shift your attention towards unreachable perfections. What kind of commitment can exist in such situations?
- Trust issues. A recent survey on the topic of how long it may take for a person to start to trust other individual found out that among millennials only 19% say that most people can be trusted (31% among 30-somethings, for comparison). What do these trust issues stem from?
Well, the divorce rate among the parents of millennials is quite high compared to fifty years ago. Likewise, being constantly bombarded by messages and new online (rarer – offline) acquaintances, youngsters need much more time to develop connection on a personal level. Only when knowing someone good enough, you can think of becoming committed.
Unfortunately, more often than not millennials just don’t (and can’t) get to that level of connection.